“Today, our marriage is almost unrecognizable. We have greater emotional safety, trust, vulnerability, and a deeply fulfilling emotional and physical connection.”
Shawn & Rosanne
Become her safe harbor and her hottest lover.
A 12-month training for men in the skills that make you irresistible to the right woman.
Earlybird bonus
Join by 5pm PT Fri, Oct 23 and get the Power Pack: three private 1-on-1 sessions with Melanie.
Pay in full, too, and you get the Double Power Up: two Power Packs, six private sessions.
You can have:
A vibrant, passionate love relationship with abundant sex and deep closeness, whether you’re single or partnered.
Sound familiar?
- “I don’t feel like I have any control over generating chemistry with a woman.”
- “Every two weeks to once a month, there’s a big blow up on my wife’s part, and she threatens separation or divorce. We fight a lot.”
- “I get first dates, but not second dates. It’s not going anywhere.”
- “My wife and I struggle to navigate the times when we’re not connected.”
- “I know I’m missing something, but I don’t know what it is, and that adds to the helpless feeling.”
You want:
If you’re single
- better results on the apps: more matches, more first dates, more second dates
- to be able to generate attraction instead of hoping for it
- to know how to skillfully ask for what you want sexually without coming off as demanding or entitled
- a happy, healthy love relationship
If you’re partnered
- to feel her melt into you, body and soul, because she trusts you so deeply
- when she’s upset, to hold steady instead of collapsing, defending, or freezing
- to know she’s drawn to you sexually
- to help her feel safe talking about sex with you, even the “taboo” desires
- to show up with steadiness, less grasping, and inner authority in love, fatherhood, and decision-making
- to be “that couple” others are a little jealous of
What you’ll learn
- How to go from freeze to freedom: Whether you tend to freeze around attractive women or during conflict with your partner, learn how to stay present and be able to take grounded, powerful action.
- Embodied polarity: Learn to turn her on and have her feel safe at the same time. When you lead with vulnerability, your relationship becomes closer, warmer, and sexier than you ever imagined.
- Master repair: So conflict brings you closer together instead of pulling you apart. For many couples, repair is the hardest part of relationship. It’s a skill, and you’ll practice it here.
What men are saying
“I leaned into my relationship with my wife, supercharging our communication, leading to us falling asleep in each other’s arms (the first time that’s happened in over a decade) and then again the next night, not to mention kissing.”
RJ, married
“I cannot believe how well this is coming together with this new woman… I’m not rushing anything or playing any games. I’m purely showing up as myself in my masculinity and providing the space for attraction to grow.”
PL, single
Become the man who…
- She tells all her friends about at brunch the next day, including how good the sex was, instead of the guy left wondering why she never wanted a second date
- Makes his wife swoon, even after decades of partnership
- She’s been waiting all day to hear from, instead of the guy she avoids texting back
- Takes her to depths of pleasure she didn’t know she was capable of
- She reaches for at the movie theater when she gets scared
“[This new woman] is super hot, super smart, and we’ve been developing the most conscious, sacred relationship that I’ve ever been in… I was so stuck for so many years and I believe your help has made me the man that can have these amazing sexual, relational and emotional experiences with a woman that I’ve been wanting for so long but afraid to let in.”
WR, single
“My wife has mentioned on several occasions that she sees large shifts in my presence, clarity, patience, and overall attitude. We’ve been communicating more directly and I’ve been advocating for myself and being more decisive. I’d feared that by claiming a more involved role, she would feel like I was stepping on her toes but instead she is welcoming my growth and takes comfort in my leadership.”
CB, married
This is an action-oriented course
You’ll do three things:
- Learn: Short teaching videos you can watch on your own time, with practices that go along with them.
- Make momentum moves: We will engage in taking risks TOGETHER on calls, so you’ll have instant accountability. This includes “risky role-play” that will get you fired up and activated.
- Take healthy action in your life: You’ll report back on brave conversations you’re leading, boundaries you’re setting, connections you’re cultivating, and more.
The men who change their love lives are the ones who act. This program is built for action.
“I’m going to get a dog and call it done.”
“After my divorce, I bounced between eight different dating apps and dated more than ten women. I believed I needed to be in a relationship to feel happy and find my purpose. After my last dating experience, I finally said, ‘Screw it. I’m going to get a dog and call it done.’
Once I started working with Mel and, at her recommendation, joined men’s groups, I slowly began to heal, and I started attracting healthier people into my life.
Then an old high school friend reached out on Instagram. Within a month, I knew I was going to marry her. Nine months later, we’re engaged, and I’m happier than I’ve ever been.
While we were dating, she said something that showed me what a healthy, loving relationship feels like: ‘I don’t need you, but I want you.’ It echoed something Mel had taught me.”
RK, now engaged
The year at a glance
The curriculum rests on cornerstones that include:
- Polarity. How are you leading in love? How are you leading in sex? What does it mean to embody both the Light Masculine and Dark Masculine in the bedroom? How do you use your own alpha energy to elicit her omega energy? You’ll leave feeling confident in your capacity to polarize her.
- Emotional Dialogue and Repair. How do you skillfully share your feelings, and come back together after a rupture? If you didn’t have the right role models for this growing up, you’re missing key skills here. Here, you'll learn and PRACTICE evidence-based, concrete skills around repair. This includes how to bring up hard things in an inviting way; how to take breaks during conflict without triggering either of you; and how to manage your nervous system so you limit defensiveness or shut-down.
- Attachment. Whether you tend towards anxious or avoidant, how do you powerfully and compassionately learn to feel secure within yourself, and if you’re in a couple, move into earned secure attachment?
- Developing Sexual Pride. How do you compost sexual shame and truly embody sexual pride? Your sexuality is your life force, not something to apologize for.
- Boundaries. How do you set healthy boundaries in your love relationship without hurting her feelings or causing harm? How do you learn to stand up for yourself without getting defensive or shutting down? You have to be willing to rock the boat to have the relationship you truly desire.
- Bullying, Bravery, and Brotherhood. Your capacity to hold HER is in direct proportion to you being held by other trustable men. If you’ve been harmed by boys or men before, how do you learn to trust again?
What’s included
- Weekly 90-minute live integration calls with Melanie and co-coach Scott, Thursdays 10–11:30am PT / 1–2:30pm ET. First call: Thursday, November 5. Every call is recorded.
- The Living Lab: quarterly live workshops where Melanie teaches on what’s alive in the group, so the teaching follows what you need
- Conscious Community: a private group chat to stay meaningfully connected with the other men
- Course modules you can return to anytime
- Momentum moves to turn what you learn into action
“When I got home, I cried.”
“I divorced three years ago after a long marriage. For most of that time I was told, and believed, that I was the primary problem in our relationship. Sex was given begrudgingly and I wished the urge would just go away.
After the divorce it took time to recover, but I used that time to work on myself. When I was finally ready to date, I honestly wondered how deeply I would have to compromise to find someone willing to spend time with me.
I met Emiko (not her real name) on the apps. She was gorgeous and I was shocked she agreed to meet me for a date. We had a good time and as the date was ending she vigorously told me she wanted to see me again. Once again, I was shocked.
I’m not an overly emotional guy, but when I got home, I cried.”
HG, dating after divorce
The VIP upgrade
Sexual Confidence
For men who want peak sexual vitality and potency, including men navigating premature ejaculation, delayed ejaculation, or erectile dysfunction.
Imagine never dreading the bedroom again. You feel connected to your body, confident you can please her, and secure in yourself whatever happens.
Sexual Confidence is for you if…
- You want to feel confident that you can please her in bed, no matter what
- You want to grow through a specific sexual health concern, such as erectile dysfunction, delayed ejaculation, or premature ejaculation
- You want your testosterone checked, and an individualized plan if it’s low
- You want to handle unexpected or difficult sexual situations skillfully, without shutting down
Everything in The Man She Craves, plus:
- Monthly shadow work workshops to address the deep-seated beliefs running in the background
- Group sessions with a urologist: a smart, progressive woman urologist, including a testosterone check and an individualized plan if your levels are low
- Group sessions with a pelvic floor specialist
- Foreskin restoration guidance for men who are circumcised. Many men report significantly increased sensation and better sexual function.
- Specialist guest experts
Investment
The Man She Craves
$250
per month, for 12 months
or $3,000 paid in full
Sexual Confidence (VIP)
$350
per month, for 12 months
or $4,200 paid in full
Want to go deeper later? Upgrade to Sexual Confidence anytime in your first three months. You’ll pay the difference for your remaining months and get access to past VIP session recordings. VIP enrollment, whether at the start or through an upgrade, continues through the full 12 months.
Bonuses
The Power Pack: three private 1-on-1 sessions with Melanie to identify what’s in the way of stepping into your power, and build a plan to step into it more. You get the Power Pack when you pay in full.
Earlybird bonus
Join by Friday, October 23 at 5pm PT / 8pm ET and you also get the Power Pack.
Double Power Up: pay in full and join by the earlybird deadline, and you get two Power Packs: six private sessions with Melanie.
This is not for you if…
- You’re looking for pickup lines or tricks to get women to do what you want
- You want to learn about this without taking action in your life
- You’re in crisis and need clinical mental health care right now. This program works best alongside that care, not instead of it.
Questions
What if I can’t make some of the Thursday calls?
Every call is recorded. The men who show up live get the most out of it, so we encourage you to prioritize the calls. If you have a conflict, come for the part you can, or watch the recording.
I’m single. Is this for me?
Yes. The program is built for both single and partnered men, with practices for each.
I’m on the autism spectrum and find it hard to read women. Is this for me?
Yes. Many men in our groups are neurodivergent, and you’re welcome here.
Is what I share kept private?
Yes. Recorded calls are only for the men alongside you in the program, and the same goes for the group membership space (including our chat).
Can I upgrade to Sexual Confidence later?
Yes, anytime in your first three months. You’ll pay the difference for your remaining months.
Your guide
Melanie Curtin is a Stanford-educated sex researcher and relationship coach who has spent 10 years helping men create the love lives they want. Her work has been featured in HuffPost, the New York Observer, the World Economic Forum, Inc.com, and Australia’s Today Show.
